Month: August 2011

A New Stage

With the beginning of school this year my family has entered a new stage of life. It is more of a change than I thought it would be. It includes a schedule change for when I work as well as a few parenting adjustments. It will only be for a short while, but even when it is over, we will be on to a different life stage that will have its on set of changes…

so…

For now, we are adjusting to this one…

and here are a few thoughts about this new stage we are in…

1. More than ever it is important for my wife and I to spend time/be involved in our middle schooler’s life. The sheltering days are coming to a close and that is ok, it must happen. As she experiences different things that come with maturity, we want to be there to help and guide. We are now entering into a stage of parenting where influence with our child will be more important than our position of authority as her parents. As she becomes more independent, influence not force will win the day. This means we will spend more time talking with her and doing things with her. The goal is to make our community at home a strong one… the stronger the relationship, the stronger the influence. We need to make sure ours is strong.

2. My youngest is still in Elementary School and even though the playing field has changed for my oldest we must not forget to parent him the same way we parented her during her Elementary School days. They will not be in the same life stage again until High School(and even then it will be different). The balance between their two life stages is something we must keep in mind as we interact with them.

We can’t sacrifice the connection with the younger to connect with the older and vise versa.

3. God must be central through all of this. Christ must be the focus of our family life (yes.. even when we are away from church). This is the way it is in all stages in life and now with these new experiences… it is a focus on Christ that will keep her out of trouble.

The way Nicole and I live in front of her is now, more important than it ever has been. Only Christ can help us act correctly. If we do not want her to do something, we must make sure we are not doing it. This includes what we say.

4. The stage will shift, day to day, week to week, as she changes. This is the natural progression of things. Kids are supposed to grow up, go to middle school and beyond. This means they are healthy, and still with us. I am thankful for that.

So we are on a new stage, the lights are on and the camera is rolling… and you maybe too. Yes… Its time to act… the show has started.

My prayer is we will remain true to Christ and faithful to parenting our kids from where they are to where they need to go.

There is nothing more important.

Division


Relevant Magazine has a post on there website that list the top six issues that divide Christians today… here is their list…

1. Homosexuality. This is an explosive issue and is only going to get more explosive within the Christian church in the years to come. It’s the single biggest challenge facing the Church…

2. Universalism. The recent blow-up over Rob Bell’s Love Wins is just the tip of the iceberg on this one. Shortly after Justin Taylor’s first “shot heard round the world” post about “Universalist?” Rob Bell, theologian Scot McKnight wrote on his blog that “Universalism, or at least the prospect of it, is the single most significant issue running through the undercurrent of evangelicalism today…

3. Politics. The hyper-partisan atmosphere (fueled by a media that feeds on divisiveness) of contemporary politics has already wreaked havoc within Christianity, where Christian leaders and many churches seem to be more vocal about aligning with one or the other side of the political spectrum…

4. Evolution. This has been a divisive issue for a long time, and continues to be…

5. Women in Ministry. Evangelical writers and students like to talk about this issue in terms of “egalitarian” vs. “complimentarian,” but essentially it’s a debate about the role of women in church. Can they be leaders? Pastors? What kind of pastors? Are there distinct roles for men and women, both in the married relationship and in the church…

6. The Internet. This may seem like a strange thing to blame for divisiveness, but I’m more and more convinced that the Internet and its accompanying glut of niche communities, insular blog networks and an almost requisite mode of mud-slinging discourse has caused all sorts of fragmentation and dissension in the Church…

This is interesting, What are your thoughts?

Mustard Seed Quotes


Just a few quotes I ran across today that went with the yesterday’s message Truly 8 – Faith 4

The previous sentence was written on Monday… it is now Tuesday and I just added #3, and changed the name of the post… keep checking back and we will see where this post goes.

1. Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. -Henry Ford (from a John Maxwell Tweet)

2. AngryBirds Life Lesson #32 – For every obstacle life throws in your way, there’s always a pig with a mustache laughing at you. – Andy Potter (Also from a Tweet)

3. The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain. -Dolly Parton

“For Truly I say, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, “Move from here to there,” and it will move and nothing will be impossible for you.” – Jesus – Matthew 17:20)

It’s Worth It

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It is easier than I would like to admit. In fact deep in my soul I wish it wasn’t as easy as it is to take my eyes off Jesus.

There are just so many things in this life that grab at, look for, and desire my attention.

It seems that when I really focus on Jesus, things in this life get louder and louder, they reach out more, and do everything they can to turn my attention back on them and away from Him. If I ignore them they get worse, and it seems they will not stop until they have won.

It is a struggle…

to stay focused on Jesus

Make no mistake to follow Him is work…. but it is worth it.

It’s worth it.

Change

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I get it, I do.

Why people do not like change…

shoot… I’m not to fond of it either… unless it is going to solve a problem but changes that happen because of life…

well, I could really do without them…

or could I?

With the moving of my daughter to middle school there is a part of me that wishes things wouldn’t change…

that we could just remain the same…

but this would not be good, my kids would never grow up, and after a while that would get very old…

this is one reason I do not have a dog.

I can see why humans have a strong desire to keep things the same. They desperately look for things in life they can control and keep consistent. The idea is : “if we could find a way to keep things the same it would bring us stability.

After all…

we want to live life with things we know and are familiar with.

The desire for sameness causes one to start a mission to preserve.

A preservation mission, and once something is found that they can completely control and preserve…

it dies.

The preservation chokes the life out of it.

The fact is, to change is to live.

Change is a part of life, change means there is life happening, moving, and progressing. It means we are growing.

But change is hard… I get that.

But change is needed, its a part of the scope of things.

Some changes are good and some changes are bad but all…

are a part of life

Middle School Eve

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So here we are, and our kids are bed on Middle School Eve.

Tonight, in the car on the way home from church my daughter says… Well tonight’s my last night as a Fifth Grader…

And so it is…

By tomorrow…. Was

So I sit here, with my iPad, in bed… the kids are asleep while I am thinking about the past, concerned about the future, wishing life was a bit slower on…

Middle School Eve

Twas the night before Middle School when all through the house, not a child was stirring and we don’t have a mouse.

The book bags were hung on the door knobs with care, knowing that 6am will come quickly for our pair.

I in my PJs, and Nic in hers too… Thinking of the times when our daughter was two.

11 years have past with a flash, and the time we have spent with her worth more than any amount of cash.

This us getting sappy so I must stop here,
But I end it wishing… We could have just one more year.

Goodnight to all who are in our same boat…

And we will end on that little note.